Children have their own signature - there is magic in being able to be themselves

Here’s a very short truth: children need SPACE.

You might think instantly of physical space. Yes, they need that. But they also need space to think, to feel, to be themselves. This kind of space is a bit of a mixture of ingredients - or perhaps more so a list of what we ‘sieve’ out of the ingredient list.

If we remove an overly packed schedule, we are giving space for what our children really need to be doing in their days: playing, connecting, being, dreaming, playing some more.

If we do a little less of our own talking, we leave space in the ‘bowl’ for the child to do their own thinking and communicating, even if this is at the pre-words stage. Just as too many activities and transitions clutter the day, too much of our adult chatter can clutter the emotional space and leave little space for our children to pop their contribution in. And our children’s contributions, even from their earliest days, are so very valuable. 

If our space (both physical and non-physical) is uncluttered and unhurried, our children find THEY are responsible for providing the ‘content’ -- they can play their way, put in the wee chattery soundtrack, and just know that not every minute of every day needs to be busy, busy. Space is freeing. (Just reading this, did you feel the exhale and the lack of pressure)?! 

What is so magical about children (one of the many, many things) is that each one arrives here as their very own person. Dr Shefali Tsabary describes it so beautifully - that they are “a person throbbing with their own signature”. Beautiful, and so true…IF we make the SPACE for the child to really live this out.

With time to choose what appeals to them, we see this signature. With the space to make their own decisions, find their way, and solve problems without being unnecessarily rescued and sped up, this signature can throb away to its heart’s content. There’s such magic for us that we get to see who each child is, and there’s magic for the child in being able to be themselves! 

Do you want practical ideas for creating a magical space for your children? Join us on 27th of March at 7 pm (NZDT) for an extra-ordinary 'webinar' during which we open our treasure trove full of ideas and tips to create a magical environment. This is THE webinar with all the practical ideas. More info -> Environment Tips & Tools <-