There seems to be a lot of lamenting these days, that our children's childhood looks nothing like our own.
Parenting with the heart in mind is about kindness, and treating our children as people. It means putting ourselves in our child's shoes by remembering what it felt like to walk through our own childhood. Getting in touch with those emotions and needs helps us to respond in loving ways.
Who is your child, truly? How have they arrived in this world?
Right from the start our children have their very own ‘style’. If we wish to parent with the heart in mind, recognising and responding to the temperament of each child is hugely important.
The spotlight is on the very important topic of sexual harassment and sexual assault. Whether or not we contribute our own voice to the ‘me too’ campaign, we have a really important role to play.
Anyone who spends time with young children will tell you they crave independence, and thrive on being able to do things for themselves. Responding to children's natural drives is exactly what our ECE settings should be doing, but sometimes misinterpretation leads us to ‘miss the mark’.
“I hear you”. These three short words convey an enormous amount of respect, and concisely capture the very essence of parenting from the heart.
Long before our children can articulate their feelings in words, we can choose to hear what they are telling us. Our newborn’s cries alert us to the fact they need something from us.
Connecting with our children is hugely, and mutually rewarding. ‘Felt’ love is very different from our children simply hearing the words, “I love you”. Love in its concrete form buoys our children to be more confident in themselves and their place in the world, as well as modelling interactions that nurture others. We feel lifted too when time is spent genuinely engaged in something together, rather than just making requests and giving instructions.
In this age of consumerism, many of us are drowning in stuff. Have you noticed that cluttered surroundings drain your energy? If we experience this, then surely our children do too.
One of the hardest parts of parenting is having confidence in our own instincts and abilities. This is especially true when this role you are undertaking matters deeply to you.