The Adult

Saying ‘no’ frees up to say ‘yes’

As parents we tend to place huge expectations on ourselves.  We want to ‘get it right’, be all things to our children and pile our plate high. We say yes, to doing this, going here, making this, perfecting that, and then the yeses lose their joy.  We’re investing energy we don’t have into things we feel obliged or pressured to do. We may not even want to do something but are more afraid of not doing it. We evaluate yes with caring, and no with being ‘lazy’ or uncaring.  But it’s just not true. We need to drop this story we carry around no, and allow ourselves to make our plates more manageable (and palatable).