Our children have their own timetable for development. If we trust their inbuilt timing, we can resist the urge to ‘teach’, intervene, coax and prompt. We can instead put our energies into observing, noticing, appreciating and celebrating. Our focus moves to looking at what our child CAN do instead of what they can’t (yet).
Our children want to share with us. They want to invite us into their world, to have us hop aboard the train of their latest interest. Many of their passions will be things we ourselves have no interest in.
There seems to be a lot of lamenting these days, that our children's childhood looks nothing like our own.
Why is it that our response is so different when a friend knocks over their glass of wine in a restaurant, versus when our child spills their drink?
Parenting is an amazing privilege and there are so many wondrous moments along the way. There will be times of absolute joy, deep pride, utter contentment and just plain old happy. Then there are other times.
Parenting with the heart in mind is about kindness, and treating our children as people. It means putting ourselves in our child's shoes by remembering what it felt like to walk through our own childhood. Getting in touch with those emotions and needs helps us to respond in loving ways.
Who is your child, truly? How have they arrived in this world?
Right from the start our children have their very own ‘style’. If we wish to parent with the heart in mind, recognising and responding to the temperament of each child is hugely important.
The spotlight is on the very important topic of sexual harassment and sexual assault. Whether or not we contribute our own voice to the ‘me too’ campaign, we have a really important role to play.
Our young children need a ‘YES ENVIRONMENT’. This is not to say they need unlimited freedom from boundaries and responsibilities.
Perhaps the most influential tool we have in our parenting kit is our own example. Our children take far more from how they see us living, than from any advice we give them. How we interact, approach tasks, and manage our emotions all provide ‘lessons’ for our children. They notice these things, whether we wish them or not, and build them into their own default settings.